I Know that I will be better

Thought of this and wanted to share it here.

Someone posted this on a forum I read and just wanted to share this, make me smile. And this helps when I get pissed off at a few women that have kids and don't really care, Or take being a parent for granted, and all of the times I want to go off on people that are pregnant and complain about morning sickness and pain.

I Know I Will Be Better

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss, and though they are good mothers and love their children - I know that I will be better.

I will be better not because of genetics or money, or that I have read more books, but because I have struggled and toiled for this child, I have longed and waited, I have cried and prayed, I have endured and planned over and over again.

Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to obtain their dreams, I will notice everything about my child, I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover, I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.

I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing I can comfort, hold and feed them, and that I am not waiting to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream, My dream will be crying for me.

I count myself lucky in this sense, that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child, that my friends will not see.

Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads to me, I will not be careless with my love.

I will be a better mother for all that I have endured, I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.

I know disillusionment and I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.

I have prevailed, I have succeeded, I have won.

So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort, I see it, mourn it and join them in theirs.

I listen.

And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely, I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, or other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth, and when life is beyond hard, I have learned a compassion that only comes from walking in those shoes.

I have learned to appreciate life.

Yes, I will be a wonderful mother.

~ Anonymous

Baby Fever/ Mthfr

These last few months my baby fever has went from a 99 to 105. And LM will be 1 year in 2 months so I'm even more feeling the rush to start trying again here in a few months. (want them 2/3 years apart) Though I keep going back and forth about how I feel about it. When it came to trying to have my first baby things didn't go to great for a while. After one of the miscarriages I was diagnosed with MTHFR. Which by the name it looks like motherfucker and that is EXACTLY how I feel about it. Makes it hard to keep a pregnancy and the possibly for stillborn goes up with having it. Along with endometriosis and ovarian cyst my chances of having a living child keeps going down with the years passing by. Honestly I don't know how I feel about another loss. Of of my last ones put me in a bad state to the point I didn't want to get out of bed. I have my beautiful daughter and also I don't want to put her though it. Then there is the fact that what I have is genetic so there is also the chance of spreading it to my kids. Which I'm not comfortable with that. I'm not sure about the risk vs. benefit of that. Then I feel selfish to try again with the possibility of losing the baby or passing this motherfucker of a disease to them. I don't want them to go though what I do. But I do want kids :-( Also I don't want my daughter to be an only child to me she has to have a sibling. What if something happens to me or my husband I don't want my daughter to go though anything alone or everything to be on her shoulders. This is so hard to decide!!!!!! Also there is the feeling of wanting to be pregnant again. I loved every min of it from the throwing up to the kicks to watching her born and take her first breath. I miss those kicks, (even the bruises that she left because my girl can KICK). I even don't care if I have to take tons of icky vitimens that make me feel blah including the ones that I have to not eat for 4 hours or lay down for 30mins. I would do it all again.

Then again I go though the timing of my pregnancy I don't want to be pregnant in August. That is the month of my bad miscarriage. Also I want to be pregnant again most of summer. I loved the fact I could go in the pool at any time. EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEe!!!

This really needs to be listened to

The Journey through Miscarriage and pregnancy loss 10/17 by ProgressiveParenting | Blog Talk Radio

Pregnant Women in Public

Everyone loves to talk, touch a pregnant women in public. But maybe it is best not to??

This has been running though my mind since about a week ago when I was holding LM a certain way with a dress not so flattering. A lady asked me how far along I was which still even though I have a baby it is hard to still think of pregnancy because of how many losses I have had. And my desire to have another one that still is filled with a huge fear of many more losses. This along with keeping up with a few blogs about Mom's not ending a pregnancy even though the outcome doesn't look to great, has got me thinking.

What if the person just miscarried, gave birth to a stillborn, baby might not make it???

There are so many what if's??

There are some that their baby is facing challenges ahead that they want to talk about it to raise awareness.

There are those that want you to ask them because they want to still enjoy pregnancy and want to make the most out of their time they have with their baby's.

What about the ones that are on the verge that day of breaking down and don't want to get reminded of their baby's fate.

Of course I'm not saying for these women it should be taboo to talk about. Because it shouldn't be along with miscarriage. Everyone that wants to talk about it should and they shouldn't be looked down upon for doing so.
And every life has a story to tell whether they are here for a short amount of time or a long amount of time.

I don't really know the answer to any of these questions or even if anyone has the real answers to them. I remember being pregnant with LM and being asked and still being asked if she is my first baby. A lot of times I want to say no and most of the time I do say no because she is not my first baby.