I think that a lot of times once you become a Mom makes you hypocritical. I know it did me. For example knowing the facts about extending rear facing LM is going to RF as long as her carseat allows which is to 40lbs by the carseat I have. But then I do know some facts about eating organic but I refuse to research more into it because I love some processed food, and do not want to lose my appetite of say occasional hamburger helper. Both can be comparable but because RF can save a life in an instant instead of killing you over time I tend to look the other way with processed food. I however do try to eat better but have cravings that I want to full fill. This guideline is interesting I have noticed with myself, how I'm so you SHOULD do it this way and not this other way. I am like this with the epidural as well I do sometimes look down upon mothers who chose the epidural because I feel that no baby deserves to come into this world drugged up. Also we as women where born to birth, it doesn't last forever.
A lot of times I put up blinders on subjects I'm iffy on or don't particularity want to follow. But then I try to go all Jackie Chan on subjects I feel every parent should do. Then there are the occasional things I simply are skeptical about say chiropractors. How the hell do they heal everything and why would you take your child there instead of the ER sometimes. And lets not mention this anti-vax movement that will get my blood to a vapor point, which those who can't read between the lines beyond boiling/infuriating)
Then like right now I am thinking and I think myself I do a pretty damn good job at being a Mother and can't think of a lot of things I do "wrong" knowingly. On a lot of things I have researched until I am blue in the face and my fingers are tired of googleing every possible source to make sure it is creditably. There are just somethings I just don't get why not. I understand sometimes somethings about parenting you think you have it in the bag and do not know any better but you can only use that excuse for so long.
There is another thing that pisses me off this going back to my earlier blog about "Computer Gangsta's" Why is it that these (insert subject) nazi's will blap their mouth all over the internet and if they see someone in person going against what they preach online they will not say anything. That I'm not like I have walked up to numerous people and told them in a nice way that how they where using their carseat was wrong and could likely kill their child in the event of a crash. Out of all these times I have only had one person get defensive and that Dad needed some serious counseling or his child taken away from him. In person if you approach the sititution the right way (normally I always say that I did it to in the beginning until someone stopped me and told me) that they have completely changed their outlook. I remember one mother just start bawling because she thought she could use aftermarket items since they where sold to the general public and she immadtly held her baby and told me to rip them out of the carseat and to throw them in the street. Of course I felt horrible but I did explain that me to am still going though that grief of how I brought my daughter home from the hospital LM would have died all the things I did wrong but a carseat just seemed like such a "common sense" thing I didn't think twice about it.
Okay, Okay enough with the car seat talk that isn't my main focus of this blog. But on certain things we as mothers need to take a chill pill and count to ten before chastening someone for how they mother. Because who knows you might be doing something "totally wrong". If you feel you must disagree and give your input unbunch your panties, take the left-over tampon out of your ass then do it in a "best behavior" type manner. Say like it you want your kids to do so later in life with some class and dignity.
Disclamer: If you notice someone doing something that is abusive or can KILL their child then speak up and it doesn't matter how you do it if your getting your point across. Of course try to do so in the nicest way possible if they do not listen then go to more harsher measurements.
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